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Quiz: Do You Make Other People Happy?

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on April 17, 2013


By Gretchen Rubin

2a117ccGretchen RubinAs put forth by my Second Splendid Truth:
One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy;
One of the best ways to makeother people is to be happyyourself.

To focus on Part A here – how do you know if you’re making other people happy? Here are some signs:

  • Do people seem to feel comfortable confiding in you?
  • Do people follow your recommendations?
  • Are you a source of material comfort or security for someone else?
  • Do people whom you’ve introduced often go on to have a continuing relationship?
  • Do people seem to drift toward you? Join a conversation that you’re having, sit down next to you at a meeting?
  • Have you recently been involved in the improvement or growth of an organization, group, or process that involves many other people?
  • Are you providing opportunities for other people – job leads, blind dates, contacts in a new city?
  • Do people whom you hardly remember go out of their way to greet you warmly? Say, the friend of your old roommate, or a former co-worker?
  • Do people seem to want to connect with you — by making plans or by emailing, calling, or texting?
  • Do people seem energized by you? Do they smile and laugh in your presence?

Notice some items that are not on the list:

  • Do people remember your birthday?
  • Do people give you presents (say, for Mothers’ or Fathers’ Day, or in recognition of an important milestone)?
  • Do people express appreciation and gratitude for your efforts?

Even if you’re making people happy, they don’t always respond by making these gestures. (Which can be quite annoying.)

What am I missing? I feel like I’ve overlooked some obvious indicators. What are some other good signs that you make people happy?

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