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Obama Divorce Bombshell: Reality or Rumor? (Photos and videos)

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on January 17, 2014

The whole world was heated up last couple of days just couple of days before the first lady’s birthday due to Obama’s divorce news and now most of those news are already removed from their sites.

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How To Keep Your Marriage Fresh

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on January 5, 2013

By Stacey Nelkin, Actress

MARRIAGE-SEX-largeLove and lust are very different — especially when it comes to a marriage.

Keeping the love alive is relatively easy, but maintaining passion for one another after years of marriage is damn near impossible.

In a recent article in The New York Times, Sonja Lyubomirsky, professor of psychology at the University of California at Riverside, explains the limits of lust in long-term relationships. She says that we can expect to stay turned on to our spouses for about two years and then perhaps again 18 or 20 years later when the kids go off to college.

So what are you supposed to do during those not-so-steamy 18 years?

The key is to keep it fresh — make your marriage feel new and exciting. We all know what familiarity breeds and it’s not desire! We humans are hard-wired to get excited by novelty. If you are striving to “keep it hot” with your significant other, you are not alone. Even Brad and Angelina have to work at it. And when children enter the mix, finding the time and motivation makes it even more of a challenge.

There might be light at the end of the 18 year-long tunnel, but it will take some creativity and initiative to make it through. I’m not there just yet as our kids are still in school, but my husband and I try to be innovative to impart renewed energy into our marriage.

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How to Avoid a Nasty Divorce

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on August 10, 2012

By Lubov Stark Esq, Founder and Principal of Lubov Stark LLC

As a divorce lawyer for the past 17 years, I get to meet and speak to dozens of people every week regarding their relationships and the problems they encounter in their marriages. Having counseled thousands of people, I am privy to both the underbelly of marriage and divorce. In the same way that people get married by choice, they make a choice about the tone of their divorce.

Avoiding war in divorce is as simple as avoiding war with your neighbor. It is complex, but at the same time achievable. I always ask my clients to reflect on the following five questions before deciding on a strategy in their divorce:

1. Can you envision being friends with your spouse after your divorce?

There must be some redeeming qualities to the soon-to-be ex spouse because my client chose to marry him/her to begin with. By eliciting this inquiry, clients may be more inclined to re-focus their attention on something positive, thereby creating a balance to the traditionally favored approach of anger and resentment.

1. Can you envision your divorce as a new beginning as opposed to the end?

Life is a progression of changing events, both in your personal and professional life. If clients are able to see the greater picture, they are more likely to reflect on marriage as one episode in their journey as opposed to having their marriage define them. Some marriages may last a lifetime, but others just run their course. This goes back to the inquiry into the belief systems and expectations of each person. From my experience, most negative feelings in the divorce process come from a person’s inability to reconcile that it is actually happening to him or her. Divorce is simply impossible to predict.

3. Are you willing to recognize that your children deserve to be raised in a loving, peaceful environment, even though you are getting divorced? Read the rest of this entry »

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No, Women Aren’t the New Men

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on August 5, 2012

By Dr Peggy Drexler, Author, research psychologist, and gender expert

Comment: Women have to create their own identity by their work where male domination is not a question. Equality question could be relevant only in the society where women are dominated by men:

When the news broke — or, more specifically, when the paparazzi broke the news — that actress Kristen Stewart had cheated on her longtime boyfriend,Twilight co-star Rob Pattinson, many in the media pointed to her total failure as a “role model to women.” Good girls, the argument seemed to go — or, at least, girls lucky enough to land a “good” guy — owe it not just to their partner but also to society as a whole not to mess it up. Men, on the other hand — well, cheating might not win them any points, but it’s something that men do. It’s that same old double standard that has plagued women for years: girls are sluts, guys are studs. Think about it: When’s the last time you saw an adulterous male celebrity being publicly chastised for being a terrible role model to young boys? Exactly.

At the same time, when a 16-year-old gymnast cries on international TV, she’s criticized for being “too emotional,” “too girlie.” The implication here is that she’s weak. So what’s the lesson? It’s certainly not about women “toughening up” or that women should act like women only when society deems it appropriate. In fact Jordyn Wieber should be celebrated for expressing her very real and understandable disappointment in an age-and situation-appropriate way. And the media should stop feeling the need to compare every female action to its male counterpart. Read the rest of this entry »

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World’s Best Flirting Lines: Badoo Compliment Success Index (PHOTOS)

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on December 16, 2010

This is never ending episode I reckon. I watched this when I was in Australia in 2002 and still going on.
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Afghan Women Revealed: National Geographic Takes A Look At Women’s Lives In Afghanistan (PHOTOS)

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on December 5, 2010

Nice country with lots of natural resources, but facing lots of internal and external problems.
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How Religion Shapes Our Attitudes Toward Divorce

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on November 16, 2010

A couple divorced and married six times with different people and in the seventh time they met each other and married again. So what’s the point to divorce and marry again and again?
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