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Children Of Divorce: How Kids Are Affected By Splits

Posted by Ram Kumar Shrestha on August 10, 2012

By Natasha Burton

We asked adult children of divorce to share how their parents’ splits affected their lives in the long run, for better or for worse. This story came to us from Crystal Pearson, age 50.* (As told to Natasha Burton.)

My parents’ divorce would have screwed me up a lot less if they’d bothered telling me about it.

When they split up, I was in elementary school and I had no idea that there were any problems between them. As an adult, I can look back and see that I should’ve been able to put things together, like the fact that my mother’s boyfriends magically showed up whenever Dad went on extended trips, and so forth.

But if my parents fought they hid it well — with the sole exception of the fight they had the night they separated. (I found out as an adult that my dad had actually caught her in the sack with one of those aforementioned guys.)

That night, my father told me that we were “moving out of state” immediately and that Mom would join us “sometime.” I wasn’t sure why we had to be gone so fast, but I did my best to try to help with the packing. I was actually excited because I loved traveling and was looking forward to living in a new state.

I had no relationship with my mother following the move. A school year passed and I was left wondering when “sometime” would ever come. I really missed my mother. Every day, I hoped she’d come walking through the door. But I never saw her again — no letters, no calls, nothing. All I had were memories of what I’d thought was a happy home life. The idea that my mother was in the process of relinquishing custody of me and never wanted to see me or my dad again was something I couldn’t even fathom; it never even entered my mind. It can still, to this day, be difficult to understand. Read the rest of this entry »

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